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Backyard Memorial Garden & Bird Watchers: Infusing Cremation Products Into The Landscape

Posted by on Oct 3, 2016 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Backyard Memorial Garden & Bird Watchers: Infusing Cremation Products Into The Landscape

Celebrating the life of a loved one can be done in many ways. Honoring their life through their personal interests is a great way to show dedication and love for the person. If the loved one in your life enjoyed bird watching, then you can continue that tradition with a special memorial garden. The cremated remains of a loved one can be used in a garden. Multiple cremation products can be purchased to help with bird watching and different memorials that you have in mind. By using one or more of the products, you can have a dedicated area for your loved one that will last for multiple years.

Cremation Memorial Bench

When choosing a backyard area to watch birds at, you can make the whole memorial a part of the process. Memorial benches are designs that are built to store the cremated remains of a loved one. The remains are typically inserted into the leg of the bench. The seat of the bench is securely attached to the legs so that the remains stay inside the legs. Additional customization options for the bench includes the ability to engrave different text or images. For example, you can have your loved one’s favorite bird engraved right on the legs of the bench. The name of the loved one can also be engraved on the bench area. Once the bench is delivered, you can set it down in an ideal spot for viewing birds in your backyard.

Cremation Plants

Birds love to fly around and feed off a variety of plants. You can infuse this idea directly with the cremated remains by shopping around for a variety of cremation plants. Cremation plant designs feature pods that infuse the ashes with soil and plant seeds. The ashes are specially treated to reach proper pH balances so that the plants can grow and thrive. Once the plants have started to grow, you can pick a special space in your backyard to place them. Once the plant is fully grown, you can watch as birds come to rest and fly around the area. It is a great way to honor your loved one and create moving visuals in your backyard.

Along with plants, you also have the option of purchasing cremation trees. These trees can be planted in your yard and serve as homes or shelter for a variety of birds. When choosing a tree, you want to select one that can grow naturally and thrive in your area. You can also use a variety of guides to see what types of birds are attracted to specific trees. This will help you select a cremation tree plant that will attract your loved one’s favorite types of birds to the area.

Birdhouse Memorial Urn

Urn designs have really changed over the years. The shapes and designs have expanded to honor the interests of loved ones. One of the more fitting urn designs for your bird-loving loved one is a birdhouse memorial urn. The urns can hold all of the ashes until they are scattered across different areas that you choose. Once the urn is nearly empty, it can be hung up in your backyard and used as an active birdhouse. The birdhouse designs range from traditional wooden designs to more exotic designs that showcase a variety of colors and features. After a few months, you may have the possibility that birds will nest inside of the birdhouse and use it as a temporary home. Then, each year, you can see new birds visit the house and enjoy watching them live and grow as you think about your loved one.

Contact cremation companies or click here to investigate different options to help you select products and choose the best options for the backyard memorial.

Maintaining Control As You Place Your Child For Adoption

Posted by on Jun 1, 2016 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Maintaining Control As You Place Your Child For Adoption

The decision to place a child for adoption is one of the hardest choices a mother can face. Ultimately, if it’s the right decision, it is likely to be the most loving and self-sacrificing choice you ever make. The world of adoption can be scary, but the good news is that you do have choices. You can stay in control as you make decisions surrounding placing your precious child for adoption. 

Know Your Agency

Adoptions can be private or through an agency. A private adoption involves an adoption attorney, potential adoptive parents and you. Agreements and contracts are made through the attorney. Because this process is based on a legal arrangement, you may feel like you have little control. 

Alternatively, an adoption agency will typically have a list of potential adoptive parents to choose from and will help take you through the process. They should also explain each step to help you understand what is happening and which decisions you will need to make. 

There are lots of adoption agencies, so don’t be afraid to walk away from one that rubs you the wrong way. Here are some clues that an agency may not have your best interests at heart. 

  • An agency should not pressure you to place a child for adoption. This very difficult choice should be yours, and a good adoption agency will want you to make the right decision for you and your baby whether the decision is to parent or not. 
  • The agency shouldn’t push certain potential parents on you. When you are choosing adoptive parents for your baby, you will have a variety of choices. The specific family you choose is entirely up to you. A trusted agency can help you make that choice, but they shouldn’t be pressuring you to pick someone in particular. 
  • The agency should have good references from birth parents as well as adoptive parents. If the agency seems to be catering to the potential adoptive parents while dismissing the birth parents, that is a bad sign. 
  • The agency should be upfront and open with you about your right to change your mind. 

Remember that most adoption agencies are for profit. Because potential adoptive parents are paying the bills, some agencies will place their needs above yours. An agency like that is not the right one for you. 

Consider Your Ideal Adoptive Family

You have the right to be as involved in your adoption as you want to be. You also have a right not to be involved. 

Sometimes birth parents find it easier to allow the adoption agency to choose the adoptive parents. They may not even want to know anything about their baby’s parents because it’s just too painful. That is a valid choice, and you have the right to make it. 

Most birth parents do want to choose a family for their baby. Before you start browsing through potential families, it helps to have an idea of what you want. Here are some things to consider. 

  • Are you okay with your baby being raised by a single parent? 
  • Do you want your baby to have older siblings? 
  • Is it acceptable to you that your baby is adopted by a gay couple? 
  • Would you like your child to live in a rural, suburban or urban environment? 
  • Do you have preferences about the ethnicity of your child’s adoptive family? 
  • Do you want involvement in your child’s life? Some adoptive parents are open to this, and some are not. 

It’s easier to choose an adoptive family for your baby when you aren’t overwhelmed. You can take some of the difficulty away by understanding generally what you want for your baby. 


Once you have chosen an adoptive family for your baby, it is very important that you communicate with them. Keep them updated about your pregnancy, and make sure you talk to them on a regular basis. This is especially important if you are planning an open adoption where you will be able to visit the child. 

USA Today reports that 95% of infant adoptions in the United States are open in some way, even if it’s just through letters and pictures. It’s very important that you and the parents you have chosen have the same expectations about how the adoption will look. You can only do this by communicating. 

Placing your child for adoption is a painful choice, but it can be the right decision for you and your baby. You can maintain control over this process by thinking through your decisions and standing up for your rights. 

For more information and details, talk with an adoption agency or check out different weblinks.